Monday, November 01, 2010

Little things go a long way

Been pondering on this matter due to the recent issues that is happening around me.

Relationship needs a lot of efforts to make it work.
I believe that and I held it strong in my heart.

Marriage is not just for a day.
Its for life.
It is not easy to live with someone for 40, 50 or even 60 years down the road without feeling a tinge of resentment or boredom towards them.
Really, it is not easy.
Which is why we heard of couples arguing, at times over petty matters.
Couples married for 20-30 years can still sought divorce, it shows that marriage is not an easy task.

That is why I believe strongly in putting a lot of effort to make it work.
But of course it shouldnt be a one-sided effort either.

Efforts does not neccessarily mean extravagance. One does not have to spend thousands of dollars just to make the other half happy. Once in a while, maybe..
If its done almost all the time, trust me, you cannot survive..

Effort here means, little things in life that is almost always taken advantage of, things that we forget.
Like smiling. Smiling is infectious, ya know..
or just giving a peck on their cheeks or lips every now and then..
or even going the extra mile as doing the household chores together..
It does not need big money to put happiness in one's life (although money still is important).
You just need a little bit of creativity!

Communication skills can go a long way in sustaining a relationship. Though, Im not the most excellent communicator. Im still learning. A step at a time. Respect is salient. No respect given is no respect gained. Understanding and honesty must be mutual.

There's just so many things we can do together with our bestfriend (im using the term best friend as our partner is our bestfriend) to make the rocky road ahead feels easier to go through.

Im not saying this as if Im some kind of a relationship expert. I am still new in marriage life. I am still learning. We never stop learning. Everyday is a new learning day.

I am writing this as a reminder to myself and to share it with anyone who read my blog, if there's any at all.

Thats all for now.

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